Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Neediness

We all have needs. So when does having needs slide into being needy? What is the difference between having needs and being needy? What causes neediness? How can we heal neediness?


Talking with my BFF,
He lonely and in pain,
Dealing with his fears
Of abandonment and isolation.

I, too, at times.
And also fear others’ neediness,
With their black holes
Impossible to fill.
And (cruelly?) speak to him of such.

Yet neediness,
Like all else,
Is a spectrum;
How much and
What kind:
The need to be seen,
To be heard,
To be touched,
To be held,
To be acknowledged,
To be loved.

Maybe those
Who aren’t ever needy,
Fearing and resisting vulnerability,
Build coats of armor
And are blocked from feeling.

Or those rare few
So filled with Love and Spirit
That there is no loneliness.
Though it is said
That even Jesus
Cried out
“Why hast thou forsaken me?”

The need for compassion
For myself, for him
And for these vulnerable naked animals
That we are.


Bibi Caspari © 4/7/16

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